Many artists, authors, poets, scientists or other intellectual geniuses in history switched from one partner to the other in the course of time. At times, they left a trail of unhappy partners behind.
Of course, people outside such a sphere of creative cult believe that such people simply try to align with a stereo type to build an image of romantic outlaws, more like growing beards and long hair to look like an intellectual and then becoming an intellectual if at all.
I have explored the lives of many such creative masters of various fields and concluded that a different factor plays a critical role behind their failing to carry on with a regular married life through an entire lifetime. Not necessarily do they divorce and remarry but often there are breaches of loyalty resulting in extra marital affairs and outbreak of complexity as well as heartbreak.
I would like to spell out my insight into this matter. I may not be correct. But this will provoke some thought in the mind of the readers. Some creative soul and the partner out there may find a way to salvage the challenges in life and see better tomorrows.
During the younger days of the creative soul, there are several unfulfilled dreams. Simply put, the list can be quite long. Having a lover (without knowing what is expected from the lover), having a home (not knowing what a home means), having money to eat in nice cafes or restaurants, being able to afford nice clothes, driving a car (the level of luxury depends on what kind of mode of transport the parents provided. Kids of rich parentage may dream of Bugatti or Ferrari while a kid from a humble household may dream of anything with wheels and an engine). Finally, somewhere at the bottom of the list, there may be, an aspiration for doing what one loves to do. If there is a creative seed inside, then the young man or woman would also have a small speck of a dream of writing a great novel or painting a wonderful image or finding the remedy of some incurable disease or solving some mathematical puzzle that remained a mystery for generations. But that is a dormant dream at that time buried under the more commonplace dreams.
The first achievement in this journey of chase is often the lover. And the dreams nurtured in the mind of any youngster happen to be more or less the same, be it a creative soul or not. This is why, in the beginning of this togetherness, dreams are shared. After all, anybody and everybody nurture the same elementary aspirations until those begin to get fulfilled partially one by one. Of course, no aspiration is fulfilled ever because the vessel of aspiration keeps swelling. But still, some fulfilment usually happens.
And remember, the dreams decide the direction of the journey. As long as the dreams are shared, the journey of both partners are aligned. They walk hand in hand.
As long as the dreams are shared, the journey of both partners are aligned. They walk hand in hand.
But the trouble begins when the creative soul begins to realize the true calling. The creative calling. The dream of making a difference in the world as an author or artist or a scientist. At that point, the rest of the half fulfilled or fulfilled desires vanish from the field of mind’s vision. Life turns into a single point agenda. Persuasion of only one dream. On the other hand, the partner without such creative calling, still wants to pursue the old dreams with which they began their journey.
If dreams do not coincide, the paths do not coincide either. They do not remain fellow travelers anymore. Either of them is dragged into a route against will.
If dreams do not coincide, the paths do not coincide either. They do not remain fellow travelers anymore. Either of them is dragged into a route against will. Cracks appear on the walls of the home that was built as a base for chasing common dreams.
This is when the muse comes into picture in the life of a creative soul because the muse is someone who embraces the dream of the creative soul. Once again, the journeys align but with a different partner.
In my knowledge, hardly a few couples with one partner driven by creative madness could complete their entire journey without qualm. If at all, it had been with good enough tussle and tug of war.
But it is an inevitable part of the life of a creative soul without any escape unless there is a tremendous stroke of luck where the partner took the counterpart’s dream as his or her own dream.
Saikat Baksi is a Best selling author of English Fiction
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The author can be reached at saikat_baksi@yahoo.co.in
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